JANUARY

Overcoming Grief

Grief is a complex and individualized journey, often associated with the pain of losing a loved one. While this is a universal experience, the way individuals navigate grief is profoundly unique, devoid of any predetermined timeline or standardized response. It's essential to recognize that grief extends beyond the conventional realms of losing a parent, child, partner, sibling, or close friend. In fact, grief can manifest in various forms, such as mourning the loss of a pet, grappling with the aftermath of a divorce, or mourning the departure of a significant role or possession, like a job or a house.

For those mourning the loss of a loved one, the emotional turmoil may be further intensified by feelings of confusion or guilt, particularly in instances of complex or challenging relationships. On the flip side, individuals experiencing grief from non-traditional sources, like the loss of a pet or possession, often grapple with the sense that their pain is invalidated by societal norms that fail to acknowledge these forms of loss.

When supporting someone in the throes of grief, it's crucial to approach them with compassion and an understanding that their grieving process is uniquely their own. This process may encompass a range of emotions, including lingering feelings of anger or numbness, which can persist over an extended period. It's important to resist the temptation to pass judgment on the duration of their grieving, avoiding labels such as "grieving too long." Instead, adopt an approach of active listening, providing a safe space for them to express their emotions.

In these moments, refrain from sidestepping the acknowledgment of their loss or pressuring them to seek closure prematurely. Instead, foster a supportive environment by sharing cherished memories, extending practical assistance, and granting them the necessary time and space to find reassurance in the validity of their emotions. Remember, everyone's journey through grief is intricate and deserving of respect and understanding.

Diane K. Schmidt Counseling Services | 8575 W. 110th Street, Suite 304 Overland Park, KS 66210 | Phone: 913.730.6778 | Email: diane@dkschmidtcounseling.com